It’s no wonder everyone is angry about things today, because it’s so easy to get fired up every time you go online and attempt to read the news. I’ve learned to just ignore articles around specific subjects, because I’m just happier that way.
But today, I read an article on Yahoo that spoke to me directly — as a female CEO. It was the biggest piece of bullshit that I have ever read — I really don’t know why I let it upset me — it’s because this guy was so offensive to me as a woman.
So this guy named Peter Heck, some renowned “religious” public speaker and author (that I never heard of) — was speaking at a high school graduation about the balance of family and work — and turned his discussion to the females in the crowd. He said, and I quote, “I challenge you to devote yourself to your families and your children. If you choose to have a career, God’s blessings upon you. But I challenge you to recognize what the world scoffs at, that your greatest role in your life will be that of wife and mother. The greatest impact you could ever contribute to our world is a loving investment in the lives of your precious children. To solve the problems plaguing our society, we don’t need more women CEOs. We need more women as invested mothers.”
Wowwwwwza. What a male chauvinistic, egotistical jerk this guy really is. “your greatest role in your life will be that of wife and mother.” Hmmmm, let me think about that one. While that’s indeed a great role in life, it doesn’t pertain to many of us — especially those of us that cannot have a baby — didn’t think about that one, did you Peter? You assume that God blesses all women with babies. And husbands. And good marriages. And all the other things needed to fit into your perfect family. Maybe he has a different plan for some of us! Maybe you need to open your mind just a tad outside your 1950’s comfort zone.
“To solve the problems plaguing our society, we don’t need more women CEOs. We need more women as invested mothers,” Oh, so that’s it — thanks Peter! I just couldn’t figure out how we solve all the problems in this world. You’ve made it so simple in your little mind. Of course, let’s leave it up to a woman, because if anyone can actually do it, it would be a woman. So I guess what you’re really saying is that all these men who are going on crazy killing sprees in our society were neglected as little boys or something. Hmmm, yes, that must be it.
Feeling threatened Peter? Not happy as a child Peter? Living in the wrong era Peter? It’s not about defining gender roles and keeping the woman in her place as you believe. The only thing that’s going to help solve the problems in our society is faith — bringing God back into our lives and making him the center of it.
Women are proving to be very effective in companies today, because they have those intangible skills that many men don’t. They lead by their intuition and are guided by their faith. They know how to nurture and care for a group of people. I have never been a huge feminist or even close, but I believe that workplace balance is achieved by both genders contributing equally — just like a good marriage.
Women play a great role in our society. Women who have found that work-life balance are some of the happiest women I know — and I know quite a few of them! I would never want to tell my nieces that their purpose on this earth is to worship some egotistical guy, have his babies, iron his laundry and cook his meals. My nieces can do whatever they want to in this world — only limited by their imaginations! If it’s God’s plan for them to be a wife and mother, then that’s wonderful! But his plan may be something entirely different — and that’s just as wonderful!
And Peter, as someone in the public spotlight, it’s your job to inspire our younger generation! To speak of how hope, faith and love can change the world — not filling people’s minds with your prejudices. Go out and look for a family that does it well — and I know some of them! And, for all those graduating high school women out there — if you choose to have a career, be a wife and mother or none of that, God’s blessings upon you.
Always B E L I E V E !